Except for a Cornell Daily Sun article from last year, there are relatively few accounts of road head on the Internet. This guy I was casually dating and I were coming home from a bar. I have sucked him off four more times since then.”
For those of you keeping score at home: Either THROAT lost count of the number of times Sam has blown him—THROAT said Sam has blown him three more times after that first blowjob—or THROAT got a fifth blowjob in the time that elapsed between sending me his letter and putting me in touch with Sam.
So, does this lopsided sexual arrangement—blowing a straight boy who’s never going to blow him back—bother Sam?
“I suppose it is a ‘lopsided sexual arrangement,’” said Sam.
“But I don’t mind. Sam came out at the end of his freshman year, to THROAT and his other friends, and he now lives in a big city where he works in marketing when he isn’t sucking off THROAT.
My first question for Sam: Are you one of those gay guys who gets off on “servicing” straight guys?
“I’ve never done anything with a straight guy before this,” said Sam.
“So, no, I’m not someone who is ‘into servicing straight guys.’ I have only ever dated and hooked up with gay guys before!”
So, why offer to blow THROAT?
“I didn’t know until after he broke up with his girlfriend that he hadn’t gotten a blowjob the whole time they were together—four years!” Sam said.
One of his arms is outstretched and resting on top of the steering wheel. This one appeared in the column the following week.
My problem is I am starting to feel guilty and worry I am using Sam. He’s a very good buddy, and I’m concerned this lopsided sexual arrangement might be bad for our friendship. Why? The practice, especially in areas where you have to drive to get pretty much anywhere, like the Midwest and California, is not necessarily a rite of passage, but it does inspire stories: While a routine blowjob is nothing to write home about, a blowjob in a moving vehicle could kill you.
That’s part of the appeal: Not only could you get caught, but you could also crash and die.
I see another car next to us; in the driver’s seat is a man whose seat is leaned way back. What should I do?
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Only one person knows how Sam feels about this “lopsided sexual arrangement,” THROAT, and it isn’t me.
Zooming out for a second: People constantly ask me how the person they’re fucking or fisting or flogging feels about the fucking or fisting or flogging.
Only Sam knows.
And that’s why I wrote you back, THROAT, and asked you for Sam’s contact information. 18+
Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply. This adds an element of surprise, some hot gasping for air, and improves his odds of success, which makes the whole thing just that much more fun.
So who wins the game?
That’s an ego booster!”
Sam, like THROAT, is 24 years old. “And I am flattered he told you I was good at it. Whichever party doesn’t have to stop. — Dan
You ran a letter about a gay man (“Sam”)…
Go to Savage.Love to read the rest. I know—now—that he thinks it is a bit unfair to me. He lived so far away (a 25-minute drive, which in high school seemed far).
One time in particular, I remember I was giving him head while we drove through the “downtown” of our suburban shit hole, a downtown which consisted of a four-lane rode with a large strip mall on both sides.
She had a particular aversion to oral sex—both giving and receiving. And one choked on a dick.
Adrienne*
When I was 16, I started dating a senior who was tall, had shaggy blonde hair (a “skater cut”), and blue eyes. And from my perspective, we’re both having fun. If you do this, and especially if you film and share it, please @mention my Twitter in your post.
A brojob is basically a blowjob between two men, where one or both of the participants is a straight man.
Sounds simple enough, but just how many straight men are dropping their trousers for other men?
The truth is, there are enough men out there for apps to exist to help facilitate this.
Have you ever heard of BRO? The BRO app is designed for straight men who are curious about what they could be getting up to with other men, and it gives those who don’t fit into the ‘gay’ stereotype a space to explore their sexuality without judgement.
It’s apparently very popular.
Before writing this article, I asked a few gay men if any straight men have ever come knocking at their door.
I was constantly on watch for other cars, knowing if anyone was driving close enough behind us they would know what was going on.